The title words were used by a friend of mine in describing a former employer. She said something like this: “That woman just sucks the bliss out of every happy moment. Doesn’t matter what it is. She has a way of seeing the negative in everything – and never fails to express it.”
It’s no surprise my friend moved on to happier pastures. Who wants to be around somebody like that?
Here are the signs that you may be in the presence of a Bliss Sucker:
- You ask them how they’re doing and are afraid they’ll answer
- You find yourself going down a different hallway or hiding in the first available cubicle when you see them coming
- You feel your energy drain into your feet when you have to spend any time around them
The most important thing to know about Bliss Suckers is that there is nothing you can do to change them. Nobody ever changes anyone else’s behavior (except possibly through short-term coercion). Real behavioral change always comes from within. Bliss Suckers are likely to keep doing what they do, because they’re benefitting from their behavior somehow. Could it be they are happy only when those around them absorb and spread their negativity?
Avoid these people when you can. When you can’t, express your own optimism as strongly as you know how, and refuse to let them steal your happiness. Then quickly go and find someone who can appreciate and share your upbeat view of things. It’s the only antidote I know of to Bliss Suckers. If you have other ideas, you are welcome to share them here.
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